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Guidelines for Reacting Effectively in Situations Where You are the One Who Feels Dissatisfied or Disapproving First


If You Have a Female Partner....


  • When Your Partner’s Actions Seem Selfish, Inconsiderate, Immature, Inappropriate, or Bad in Some Other Way
  • When You Are Dissatisfied With the Amount of Energy that Your Partner Is Devoting to Connecting With You Emotionally, Romantically, Affectionately, or sexually
  • When Your Partner’s Viewpoint or Opinion Seems Questionable, Off-Base or Just Plain Wrong
  • When Your Partner’s Needs or Preferences Seem Illogical, Short-Sighted, Excessive, Unrealistic, or Unfair

    • If You Have a Male Partner....


  • When Your Partner’s Actions Seem Selfish, Inconsiderate, Immature, Inappropriate, or Bad in Some Other Way
  • When You Are Dissatisfied With the Amount of Energy that Your Partner Is Devoting to Connecting With You Emotionally, Romantically, Affectionately, or sexually
  • When Your Partner’s Viewpoint or Opinion Seems Questionable, Off-Base or Just Plain Wrong
  • When Your Partner’s Needs or Preferences Seem Illogical, Short-Sighted, Excessive, Unrealistic, or Unfair

    • Guidelines for Reacting Effectively in Situations Where Your Partner is the One Who Expresses Dissatisfaction or Disapproval First


    If You Have a Female Partner....


  • When Your Partner Doesn’t Like or Agree With the Way You Are Acting
  • When Your Partner Doesn’t Like or Agree With Your Viewpoint or Opinion
  • When Your Partner Is Uncomfortable with Your Needs or Preferences

    • If You Have a Male Partner....


  • When Your Partner Doesn’t Like or Agree With the Way You Are Acting.
  • When Your Partner Doesn’t Like or Agree With Your Viewpoint or Opinion
  • When Your Partner Is Uncomfortable with Your Needs or Preferences

    • Guidelines for Reacting Effectively in Situations Where Your Partner Commits an “Obvious Offense”


    If You Have a Female Partner....


  • When your partner is physically aggressive or threatening
  • When Your Partner…
  • Intentionally lies to you
  • deceives you
  • is sexually unfaithful,
  • fails to keep a clear agreement with admittedly no good reason,
  • badmouths or undermines you,
  • violates your privacy or personal space, or
  • makes an irreversible, unilateral decision regarding something about which she knows you have strong feelings

    • If You Have a Male Partner....


  • When your partner is physically aggressive or threatening
  • When Your Partner…
  • Intentionally lies to you
  • deceives you
  • is sexually unfaithful,
  • fails to keep a clear agreement with admittedly no good reason,
  • badmouths or undermines you,
  • violates your privacy or personal space, or
  • makes an irreversible, unilateral decision regarding something about which he knows you have strong feelings
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